Crazy Christian Life by Kevin

Monday, November 27, 2006

The Heart Of Worship

When a family, such as mine, is experiencing a possible relocation, several tasks must be accomplished long before the final move. One priority of mine is trying to find a church that best fits the personalities of my family. Each member of my family has certain needs that require different ministries. Some things are more important to me than they are to Tammie and Nick and vice-versa. But it's not just a numbers game where we tally up the points from each church and the highest score wins. It's a God thing. We should be asking God to lead us to where He wants us to be. Just like in my job search, God has a church home set aside just for us. But as always, God has confused me on my level of thinking. For instance, just when I feel that God has led me to a place of employment, it seems as if He retrieves all of the cards to the deck and begins to reshuffle them. God is also shuffling the deck of cards to all of the churches I visit. I don't know if God is just testing me on different levels and seeing how I will react to different situations or settings, or what He's doing, but He sure keeps me guessing.
Before I share with you some of my visits to churches in Virginia, I just want to say that when I vent about something, I always try to look towards God for guidance, and even after the post is final from my initial opinions, God has, in many occasions, lead someone to leave a comment for me to possibly rethink my ideas and change some thoughts for the better.

Northeast Virginia:
With an area phone book and the internet, I targeted a number of churches that met an indefinite criteria for me and my family. Mostly the criteria was very selfish and directed towards my wants and needs. So many times I find my wants getting in the way of what God wants, and of course, God always corrects me on that. Everyone who even remotely knows me, knows that I have a great love for music. That if given a choice between a Traditional Church and a Contemporary Church, the traditional church wouldn't stand a chance. I most certainly do not forbid hymns, it's just not my favorite kind of music. Some people prefer Country music to Rock, or Classical Music to folk. Contemporary Christian songs are just my personal preference. So naturally, most of the targeted churches were Contemporary Christian churches.
It seemed though, that every church I attended with the contemporary music, the message was dull, boring and monotone. It seemed that the pastor was just reading word for word from his notes that he just wrote five minutes ago, unrehearsed and not from the heart. It was obvious that these churches were relying on the music to be their main source of worship. They were very proud of their talents. The music and songs were well polished and sounded great. The word of God seemed to be just a filler, or a half-to-do chore that they rushed through real quick so they could get back to their music. They seemed to worship the music more than they worshipped God. Yes, they sounded good. Very good musicians..... But I found myself sick at my stomach when I departed from these churches.
Finally I changed gears and decided to visit a Traditional Baptist church. Reluctantly I sat through the hymns, and then I heard the message. Everything was perfect. The message was from the heart and in tune with God's directions in the bible. The hymns and the message were a perfect fit. The pastor spoke the word with love and passion, keeping me alert and wanting more. I was eager to listen and learn. What it all boiled down to was that the music didn't matter to me at all, it was all a "Heart" issue.

Am I getting Old ? Did I just say, the music didn't matter ?
Jeff, quit applauding.
Right now Jeff Noble is saying, "Kevin was listening to me!"
For those of you who are calling the secret service to investigate who has stolen my identity, or, those of you who are having a heart attack from the words that you have just read, just try to hang on, the ride isn't over yet.

I left the church refreshed and feeling good. This traditional church just became the front-runner over all of the other churches in Virginia. I wanted to investigate this church even more though, so I called the church office the following week to learn more about their doctrine and just how they function and tick. I didn't get a chance to converse with the pastor, because he was out that day, but from the sermon I heard on Sunday, I just knew that his heart was on fire for Jesus. It wasn't until I was connected with the youth pastor when my euphoria took a disappointing nose dive.
After several questions and answers about the youth, one answer to a question brought out the rolaids once again. The question pertained to "Praise and Worship."
Here was how and what I asked.
"I noticed that in the regular service there were nothing but hymns. I was wondering if the services ever mix it up a little and play some Contemporary Praise and Worship songs ?"
He answered very quickly and sounded disgusted with a "NO, NOTHING BUT HYMNS."
Amazingly, I was Okay with that answer. Then I asked the rolaid question of what the youth usually listens to and sings during their meetings of "just youth". The answer was very disturbing. He said that he was the music leader and the youth pastor all in one, and that the youth sings the same songs that the church sings on Sunday mornings. He went on to tell me that he didn't want his youth listening or singing that kind of music that was "of the world".
What ?! Hello !!!! Hymns were written by man the same way praise and worship songs were written, some may have been written 100 or even 200 years ago, but still they were written by a living human. What makes them more pure than today's songs to Christ? An atheist could write the most beautiful classical piece of music ever written, so does the sound make it pure ? Is that classical piece, written by an atheist, more acceptable than Praise and Worship songs that were written and sung for the Lord ? Be careful on what you condemn and what you accept. King David was ridiculed for the way he was praising and rejoicing God while he was bringing the ark of God to the city of David. Again, I urge you, and whoever fits this description, be careful of what you define as "UNDIGNIFIED". (2 Samuel 6:12-23).
You are a teacher and a mentor, and as James would warn, "those who teach will be judged more strictly" (James 3:1).
If Praise and Worship songs are not your preference for whatever reason, then that's okay in my book. But don't label it, "of the world" that's just a selfish idea and a personal vendetta against something that you're passing down to several young individuals. If you don't want to be "of the world" then you might want to get rid of your cell phone, computer, nice car, telephone, and other worldly things and join the amish. I'm not saying that to be mean or disrespectful to the amish, I'm trying to make a point of how self centered that statement was. It's a very selfish attitude that you are passing down to a younger generation. A selfish concept that you want your whole youth to share with you. Who are you to label a song written to God as "Of the world" ? Just because drums and guitars have been added to the song doesn't make it "of the world". It's what is in the heart that makes it either "Worship To God" or "Of The World"
Basically, how we worship shouldn't offend anyone if we are making the subject of worship totally to God and Jesus. If it means getting UNDIGNIFIED, then so be it.
In conclusion, I want to make sure that my "HEART OF WORSHIP" is directed towards God and Jesus. Matt Redman describes it best when he sings,
"I'm coming back to the Heart of Worship, and it's all about YOU, it's all about YOU, JESUS"

12 Comments:

  • At 11/27/2006, Blogger Jim said…

    Yes, Kevin...you HAVE been listening...and again, the 'can of worms' is open.
    We simply have to remember, it's always about the 'WHO and WHY' and not the 'how and when'.

     
  • At 11/29/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Kevin,

    Over the past 20 years I have been invited to several churches and have not yet been able to bring myself to attend any of them. About 19 years ago, when I was living in Monticello, I had someone say something to me in church that to this day, I cannot understand nor forget. I'm not even sure if you remember it happening or if you even knew about it. But I went to church with a friend that lived in that same apartment complex that we all lived in. Can't remember his name, but I do remember that it was a Church of Christ there in Monticello. Anyway, after the church service, the friend came up to me and said that the pastor had just talked to him and informed him that I was not welcome in their church because I am a sinner. His reasoning for calling me a sinner was because he said I was in a wheelchair because I was a sinner. Needless to say, that had a profound effect on me and I have not been able to bring myself to attend an organized church since that day. I have always sat back and kept my spirituality to myself. I will say that since that day, I have always wanted to attend church service, but have always been afraid of receiving another reaction like that.

    Not sure how this fits into your trials, but your post about the churches brought it to mind, so I thought I would tell you about it.

    Wish I could think of the name of that friend and the church. I do remember that it is/was located in the curve just as you are leaving Monticello towards Dumas on the road that goes up through Tyro.

     
  • At 11/29/2006, Blogger Kevin Stoxe said…

    Jeff,
    I was truly disturbed about the comments you left of your church visit disaster. 19 to 20 years ago, when we all hung out together, I know that Tammie's and my spiritual walk was very fruitless. Tammie and I were both saved long before we ever met, but it was not evident to our friends at that point in time. God has definatly blessed Tammie and me over the years, and has brought us back into His pressence. The question is, "Why was I so far away from God?" The #1 answer to that is , "I never got into reading or studying God's word the way He desired me to." When and if I ever went to church, I only relied on the sermon to get me through my walk as a Christian. The gigantic fact that I've learned over the years is that the bible is a personal atlas that God has given us to use for our Journey through life here on earth. To learn the best possible route to the Kingdom of Heaven. None of us have ever been or traveled to heaven that I know of, so we really don't know where it is. The only way to get to a place that you've never been is to study the different routes in a road atlas. Some may choose mapquest or some other website on the internet that helps with destinations, but still, it's some kind of atlas or map. That's what the bible is to us, an atlas to study and learn the way. By reading and learning the bible you will be prepared and able to correct, rebuke and encourage others in all situations, especially when someone offends you.

    2 Timothy 4:2
    "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction."

    With that said, I urge you Jeff to go to the bible and study it, and you will find answers to many questions that you've always wondered about. It probably won't explain though why this certain pastor has forbidden you to attend that church. His reasoning is wrong on so many levels. First I ask this. "Is everyone in this particular church, SINLESS?"
    If so, then why do they need a SAVIOR?
    My second question is... "Is he denying the fact that Jesus cannot save you from your sins?"

    Romans 3:23
    "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God"

    Colossians 3:11-17
    11) Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.
    12) Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13) Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14) And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
    15) Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. 17) And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him."

    Colossians 3 gives us rules for Holy living, but in this passage, verse 11 pretty much explains to us that Christ didn't just die for a select few, He died for all.

    Jeff,
    Even after hours and hours of studying, you will still meet people who will challange your beliefs. They will seem to be quick on their feet to try to discourage you and your walk with Christ anyway they can. Instead of letting them try to confuse or anger you, just pray for them. I find myself so many times needing to take this advise that I am now giving you. Don't let this one incident keep you out of church. You need church. Jesus is the bridegroom of the church and to deny church is denying the bride of Christ. God desires us to be surrounded by other believers. He has a church home in mind for you.
    Right now, my family is searching for a new church home whereever God leads us. However, I do have a church home in Monticello right now. The church is called "Journey". It's a non-denominational church whose doctrine comes specifically from the bible. Journey by no means is a perfect church. Every church will have problems because the members are all sinners. As long as the church keeps Christ as their "first love" and makes Him the center of their focus, the church will be blessed.
    Jeff, in conclusion, I'm sorry that this incident has happened to you. I did not know about it when you were here. My prayers is that you can forgive this pastor for sinning against you and that you can move on and find a church home for yourself where you can praise and worship God with other believers. I hope that this has helped you in some way....
    God Bless,
    Your Friend,
    Kevin

     
  • At 11/30/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Kevin,
    If you would, please allow me to interject a message to your friend Jeff L...

    Jeff L.:

    Man, my heart is breaking knowing
    that a foolish man drove you away from fellowship with other Christians. It is also breaking that, by your description, the pastor who said these foolish (and should I say, SINFUL) things was at the church I currently attend. Of course he's no longer there, and I wouldn't attend this particular church if this is the way they believe. It goes to show how powerful, or how painful our words can be. I equate this damage that has been done, because it's on a spiritual level, with the damage on those who were so hellishly violated by a Catholic priest. So I want to apologize on behalf of my church and on behalf of other believers for what was said.

    I pray that someday as you seek God and seek His Word, that you will be able to find a place where you can join with other believers (who are struggling with the same things you may be) and be healed of the damage done by this incident.

    Blessings to you
    T.J.

     
  • At 12/02/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I appreciate your comments and I just want to say that I hold no ill-will towards the church. It was one persons belief(at least that's the way it seemed) and by no means has the comment altered my belief or faith in the lord. I hold my spirituality very dear to my soul and still read the word of god often. I only have not been able to bring myself to attend an organized church. Although, I would dearly love to.

    Thank you and God Bless you all.

    Jeff L.

     
  • At 12/03/2006, Blogger Kevin Stoxe said…

    TJ,
    As I was reading more into the location of the church. I believe that the church in question is not the church you attend after all. Jeff L. said that it was the church in the curve going to Dumas through Tyro. Tyro is on the Coleman Highway, your church is on the Winchester Highway. I believe the church is actually "Rose Hill Baptist Church". Now I don't know if that church used to be a "Church of Christ" or not, but the location fits the description.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     
  • At 12/09/2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    i had limited access to the internet while gone on vacation the past week, and while i was able to read kev's "heart of worship" post, i didnt have a lot of time to do the comments. i saw kevin at dad's place friday evening, and he told me to be sure i checked out the comments, especially what his friend jeff l. had written...

    to jeff l.,
    even though it was almost 20 years ago, its plain to see that what happened when you went to your friend's church has had a long-lasting and profound(ly negative) effect on you. i agree with jeff noble... while you CAN live out your faith outside of a fellowship of believers, it would be far more beneficial if you could find a place of worship and service. easier said than done in some communities, but in a place as big as indianapolis, i bet you could find a great church to become a part of.

    this sort of thing happens way too many times though. its been said that Christians are notorious for "shooting their wounded", which is so far from what Jesus is all about. i pray that you find a place of love and acceptance within a fellowship of believers.

     

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